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Before jumping in and saying, “helping others is ALWAYS the right thing to do” I really encourage you to have an honest look at where that statement is coming from in you. Is it coming from a wound where you felt you needed help from someone else but were abandoned, and instead of feeling the pain of that, you’ve built a moral stance against anything that might look like abandonment? Is it coming from a caretaker part of you that has learned you only have value if you are of value to someone else? And there’s a deep fear around who you are if you’re not taking care of others? If this post activates you, first feel the anger, then drop a layer beneath it into the sadness (and there WILL be sadness if you drop deep enough). And THEN have a conversation with yourself about what that sadness is connected to. That’s where healing will happen. And from that healing you’ll be better equipped to hold the nuances of this message. This post is NOT suggesting to just abandon people when it gets hard. And it’s not designed for us to use “Tough Love” as an egoic/moralistic stance against not wanting to help others or avoiding the pain of our own feeling of helplessness. It’s about looking at a situation for what it actually is, having an honest assessment with yourself about any codependency that may be at place, and then using your own deep heart discernment around what is ACTUALLY in service to this other person. And remember, this video says *sometimes* the most compassionate thing to do is let another person struggle. It is NOT saying that this is ALWAYS the right thing to do. You need to use your own judgment based on the context, your needs, your boundaries, and the person. And yes, it’s hard as hell. Feel free to share your thoughts below ❤️ 04/10/2024

Before jumping in and saying, “helping others is ALWAYS the right thing to do” I really encourage you to have an honest look at where that statement is coming from in you. Is it coming from a wound where you felt you needed help from someone else but were abandoned, and instead of feeling the pain of that, you’ve built a moral stance against anything that might look like abandonment? Is it coming from a caretaker part of you that has learned you only have value if you are of value to someone else? And there’s a deep fear around who you are if you’re not taking care of others? If this post activates you, first feel the anger, then drop a layer beneath it into the sadness (and there WILL be sadness if you drop deep enough). And THEN have a conversation with yourself about what that sadness is connected to. That’s where healing will happen. And from that healing you’ll be better equipped to hold the nuances of this message. This post is NOT suggesting to just abandon people when it gets hard. And it’s not designed for us to use “Tough Love” as an egoic/moralistic stance against not wanting to help others or avoiding the pain of our own feeling of helplessness. It’s about looking at a situation for what it actually is, having an honest assessment with yourself about any codependency that may be at place, and then using your own deep heart discernment around what is ACTUALLY in service to this other person. And remember, this video says *sometimes* the most compassionate thing to do is let another person struggle. It is NOT saying that this is ALWAYS the right thing to do. You need to use your own judgment based on the context, your needs, your boundaries, and the person. And yes, it’s hard as hell. Feel free to share your thoughts below ❤️

06/06/2024
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