Djamesglory

Learn to stop explaining
Everything, let people think
whatever they want.
You have nothing to prove
to anyone.

I carry my husband's phone anytime, I know the password to his phones, email and even his facebook account,

I can access his Whatsapp anytime any day,

Infact he gave me his ATM pin while we were still in courtship.

Meanwhile, my husband knows all my passwords too.

Why am I writing this?

All these married men and women that get so agitated and paranoid anytime their spouses carry their phone,

What really is the problem? If you fall in this category, hope all is well with you? 🤷‍♀️

The funniest of them are those set of persons who want to maintain privacy in their marriage.

You hear them make statements like, “My wife/husband cannot know my ATM pin oo, I don’t trust him/her to that extent”,

Wait oo, you don’t trust your husband/wife?

Sir/ma, you entered into marriage with your full chest with a person you don’t trust? 🤦🏻‍♀️

For another set, you will hear them say,

“How will my wife/husband go through my phone, what’s he/she looking for inside there?

“My phone is my privacy”.

Aunty shift, which yeye privacy is that one?🙄

If your privacy is so important to you, why didn't you remain single?

You must understand that the day you accepted to marry that person, that day did you lost all forms of privacy,

For any marriage to work, transparency is key.

Transparency builds TRUST,

Transparency builds ONENESS,

Transparency builds UNITY,

Transparency blocks channels the enemy would have passed through to invade your home,

It makes your partner understand that you trust them so much that you can entrust something as private as your ATM pin to them.

Why will you keep your phone's password from your spouse if truly your conscience is free?

Why do you excuse yourself whenever you are with your partner and you want o make a call?

You will be hiding in your own house like a thief because only God knows who you are on the phone with 😩

If your privacy is so important to you, then why did you choose to settle down, you should have just remained like Apostle Paul and died single,

Privacy ko, privacy ni 🙄

Baba you need to be lashed fifty strokes of the kane for choosing privacy over peace,

Yes, your hiding your phone every now and then from your partner is stealing your spouse's peace of mind,

causing unnecessary suspiciousness here and there.

You need to change, you really need to change

Any conversation with anyone your spouse shouldn't be aware of should never have happened in the first place no matter who the person is,

Those chats and messages your spouse should never read shouldn't even exist in your phone at all 🤷‍♀️

Be transparent with your partner, stop hiding things from them.

know this and know the true definition of peace.

God's Word says, "Adam and Eve were both naked and were not ashamed",

Nakedness here doesn't only implies when you both are not wearing clothes like when you bathing together or having some sort of sexual intimacy,

Nakedness in marriage also implies being open and transparent as much as possible with your partner,

not getting to hide anything from them,

not keeping any information that pertains to you from them.

Just remain single if YOUR PRIVACY is so precious to you, marriage is not for you biko. Make you no go use privacy frustrate person pikin in the name of marriage 🤦🏻‍♀️

Having said all, transparency is key to a lasting marriage. Be transparent with your partner, that's what it means to be ONE 🫂 with them.

It is with love that I write ✍️ this to you.

I hope you take heed 🙏🏻

YOU OR YOUR OFFICE…

You refers to who you truly are, rich, poor, brilliant, dull, principle, loose, big or small.

Know that whoever you are, you are always more important than whatever office you are occupying.

Your office is a place that feeds from who you are. Your office is worthless if you don’t have anything to give to it.

You must make sure people place more value on who you are than the office you occupy. The office you occupy today might just be temporary but you are always who you are.

When people rally around you because you are in one exalted office, ask yourself, will they find me valuable if I leave this office tomorrow.?

The truth is that they value your office and not you, they respect your office and not you. Don’t get fooled by their smiles, lips loyalty and titles they call you.

Make yourself more valuable than your office. Ensure the office is not important without you as the common mistake has been that we make the office very important and forget to upgrade our value.

Those who come because of your value wont ask for anything but will be around to study how you actually run the office and making it progress and successful. They will replicate your ideas in their own little way and become successful like you.

Those who place more value in the office will come with demands and once you say NO, you may not see them again or they will feel you are not fit for the position hence they will draw and untimely exit plan for.

MAKE THE OFFICE, DON’T BE MADE BY THE OFFICE

Djamesglory.