GLOW

Every queen who desires to walk with a king must first govern her emotions. This is not weakness,it is wisdom.

Emotional mastery is one of the clearest marks of a strong and discerning woman.

There will be moments when apologizing feels costly, when silence feels unfair, and when the king may be wrong. Yet wisdom will require restraint because speaking in the heat of emotion is one of the quickest ways to forfeit honour.

Silence, when chosen with understanding, is not submission to error. It is a strategic strength.

It is the discipline to pause, to assess, and to respond rather than react. A woman who reacts impulsively may feel relieved in the moment but regret the outcome. A woman who is composed preserves her dignity, her influence, and her authority.

True strength is calm under pressure. It is emotional stability when provoked. It is discernment that knows when to speak, when to wait, and when love should communicate what words cannot.

Wisdom also understands seasons and roles. There are times to relate with him as a king, times to honour him as a priest, and times to love him as a husband. Knowing the difference is not instinctive, it is learned through maturity.

A queen is not ruled by her emotions. She rules over them. And that mastery is what makes her fit to stand beside a king.

At some point in my life and in my walk with God, I made a decision unintentionally that I would marry any child of God except a pastor and some specific professions.

I didn’t like the idea of marrying a pastor. I had my reasons. But growth brought revelation and here is what i have to say in regards to this.

No genuine pastor calls himself. Pastoral ministry is not a career choice; it is an assignment. It is purpose. Most men of God never planned to be pastors, apostles, or evangelists. They were called and some ran from it like Jonah until God stopped them.

When this truth dawned on me, I realised something sobering: I had built a wall in my heart. A stronghold. One that could have made it almost impossible for me to say “yes” to a pastor, no matter how aligned he might be with God’s will.

I even saw this play out in real life( Story for another day)

I already knew he was a pastor yet I struggled to accept that part of him.

That was when I understood how deep the resistance in my heart truly was.

So this is a word to that Christian girl who has vowed, consciously or unconsciously, “I will never marry a pastor.”

Sis, being a pastor is an assignment to a man called by God not a flaw to be managed or minimized.

Could this be why you are still single? Because you already made up your mind never to be with a man God has called to be a pastor.

What if the very man God is sending carries the calling you have already rejected?

Sometimes this is how delay happens. The enemy takes advantage of rigid decisions and convinces us to say no to the very person God has brought while we are busy praying.

Check your heart. Tear down every wall. Release every condition that God did not give you.

Anything God assigns is not a mistake.

If God is bringing a Pastor your way, my dear accept him with your full chest and trust God to help you become the HELPER he needs.