Dennis Observes

here's to another winning month...

MEN & EMOTIONAL REALITY

Nobody prepares men for this part.

You can love her deeply…

Be loyal…

Do everything right…

And still lose her to someone doing less.

Not because you’re not enough.

But because timing, emotions, and choices don’t always follow logic.

That’s why many men stop showing emotions.

Question:
Do you think men are becoming emotionally cold… or just wiser?
~ Dennis Observes

It’s Monday… another beautiful day to mind your business, especially your future.

Just a quick reminder in case you forgot…

If you don’t invest in yourself, your health and your finances, you might wake up one day and see your face on platforms like Lucky Udu’s:

“How many of you remember this guy?” 😭

Comments will be like:
“Ahh I remember him o… life no balance am at all.”
“Na this guy blow that year na… what happened?”

Meanwhile, you’re there typing: “Guys I’m still here o” 🥲

Use the stories of Mr Ibu, Sky B, Papa Ajasco and learn from them gently…
Because if you refuse, life will set exam for you without past questions.

And trust me, the internet never forgets.
People will use your story as an example of what not to become.

Abeg… learn or perish 😂

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'‎​I met my current husband 3 years ago. Actually, He was honest from Day 1, he had a wife & 3 children (ages 9, 6, and 4). But he also told me he was lonely in his own home.
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‎​He didn't just treat me like a side chick; he treated me like a priority. While some girls were out here begging for 2k for hair, he set up my unisex boutique & also moved me into a serviced apartment. He even took my 3-year-old son, as his own. Honestly, I'm proud to say the bond they share? Even biological fathers don't have it.
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‎​Tragedy struck 14 months ago when his wife passed away after a brief illness. It was a dark time, & I was the one holding him together while he mourned. I later moved into the family house a month after the funeral to make sure the home didn't fall apart.
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‎​Now, the big news: Our traditional wedding is takes place in 3 months after i give birth to our first child. I am finally becoming the Mrs. I was always meant to be. ​However, we had to make some "difficult" executive decisions for the sake of peace. I told him plainly: "I cannot mother another woman’s 3 children." It’s not that I’m wicked;
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‎I’m just being realistic. I have a high-strung personality, & I don't want to vent my frustrations on innocent kids & become the "evil stepmother" the world loves to hate. To avoid that temptation, we agreed his children will move to the village to stay with his late wife’s sister. ‎ and mind you, I've never stopped him from taking care of his children. Please,do not misunderstand or judge me wrongly. I do not hate his kids, i just want my own space and avoid drama, he visits them from time to time and i do not have an issue with it,

It’s better they are with their own blood where they can be "properly" raised, rather than being here where they might feel like they are competing with my or son for their father’s attention.. However, he was hesitant at first, but when he saw how much I’ve sacrificed for him, he understood.
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‎My son needs a stable environment without the drama of "step-siblings" dragging for space. and also to aviod "Stepmom-stepchildren drama. ​Everything is finally falling into place. My boutique is thriving, my son has a "daddy" who adores him, and I have the man of my dreams.
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‎​I’m sharing this as prove and as well pass a message to my fellow,, ' please, if you know you can't love a man's children same as him, then, give them space, it's better to ask him to get ride of his kids rather than treat them badly, always remember that kids are innocent.

Go for what your heart wants, ‎Don’t let society's "moral" rules keep you in poverty. They told me I was a home-wrecker, but today, I am a home-maker. If I had listened to the critics and left where would I be today? Probably still jumping yellow buses in the sun... ‎Believe me, Sometimes, the "wrong" man is actually the right one for your destiny. Listen to that inner voice, God always has a way to guide us, remember, our God works in strange ways.. he's ways are not like that of man"
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Copied from someone who copied from someone who also copied from someone who copied from someone who copied from someone who copied too

Me: As long as you are happy...
~ Dennis Observes

How Women Advice Each Other:

“Date both of them first… then see who is more serious.”

So she starts seeing two men.

One is the he-goat 🐐 coming with vibes, sweet talk, late night calls, zero investment, just enjoying the roller coaster.

The other is the intentional man bringing stability, commitment, planning the future, ready to drop millions on building a life.

Guess who gets the fun phase…
And guess who gets the responsibility phase.

The first one gets the best version of her for free.
The second one is expected to pay the full price for what’s left.

Sometimes even with a bonus child that isn’t his.

Then they say:

“Where are all the good men?”

My brother…
Most of them are in the mud learning the hard way.

Intentional men, guard your investment.
~ Dennis Observes

Some of you might think this is a joke, but this is actually how plenty of these so-called “strong and independent” lifestyles are funded.

She rents an apartment:
One mumu proudly called the intentional man, is paying for the furniture and interior.
Meanwhile, one he-goat is the one coming over at night to enjoy the apartment.

She wants to upgrade her wardrobe:
One mumu, labeled the real man, funds the shopping spree.
But it’s some random he-goat who gets the honor of taking the clothes off.

She posts screenshots of lingerie she wants:
One generous mumu pays for the un**es.
Another he-goat is the one removing them later.

After years of roaming bedsheets, suddenly she wants marriage:
Now one mumu is expected to show up with millions for the wedding and the ring,
while the he-goats already enjoyed the best seasons for free.

And people wonder why some of them are always double dating.
Simple mathematics: one man alone cannot fund the lifestyle and the entertainment department at the same time.

But here is the real lesson.

The “international man” is usually the final option.
The retirement plan.
The safe landing when the other adventures have expired.

He is the one bringing stability, commitment, and the world on a platter…
yet receiving what remains after the he-goats had their fun and left.

Meanwhile the he-goats invested little or nothing,
but enjoyed the premium experience.

So observe carefully.

In today’s dating economy,
many men are competing for the role of provider,
while the he-goat is simply enjoying the benefits package.
~ Dennis Observes