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I hope you make the best deal out of May. I will be cheering and rooting for you, always 😍🤗😍🤗😍🤗

Did you know that boys are also victims of molestation, harassment, abuse, and assault?

Today, society primarily emphasizes protecting the girl child from imminent dangers, which is commendable.

However, it’s equally important to consider the risks faced by boys daily.

While raising girls with dedication is vital, boys should be nurtured with equal vigilance. The methods used to exploit and abuse girls by adult can be directed at boys too.

Unfortunately, many cases of male abuse go unreported, leaving society unaware and silent. This neglect can lead to emotional trauma, confusion, shame, hypersexual behaviour, addiction, anger, and psychological wounds in boys.

Have you ever wondered why there are so few or never a male or boy figure coming forward with claims of sexual exploitation?

The answer may reflect society’s lack of concern for boy victims.

As a result, efforts to protect girls often falter because neglecting the boy child creates future threats—neglect that perpetuates a cycle of harm.

Ultimately, all initiatives to nurture girls are undermined if boys are not equally cared for.

To truly succeed, both boys and girls must be raised under the same principles, protected by the same laws, guided in the same direction, and shielded from the same dangers.

Failing to do so risks raising one gender to inadvertently endanger the other, leaving society trapped in a cycle of destruction and inequality.

GENDER IMBALANCE IS THE MAIN THREAT TO OUR EXISTENCE.

We are raised in a society that quietly teaches a girl that marriage is the validation of her existence.

From childhood, she is subtly reminded that her greatest achievement will be to become someone’s wife. Her success is measured by who chooses her. Her worth, tied to a ring.

At the same time, the boy child is raised with a different script.

He is taught that his value lies in his ability to carry weight. To provide. To endure. To solve. To shoulder every responsibility without complaint.

He must feed.
He must clothe.
He must shelter.
He must provide—not only for himself, but for his family… and the family of the woman he loves.

No objection. No help. No visible exhaustion.

Just be a man.

And so the girl grows up believing that every dime she makes is simply an addition—because a man should provide everything anyway.

The boy grows up believing that asking for help is weakness; man must never appear tired.

This is what happens when gender balance is absent from birth.

When we raise girls to depend and boys to drown in silent pressure and invariably, adults who misunderstand partnership.

Gender equity is not a threat to manhood. It is relief for it.
It does not reduce a man; it supports him. It does not erase strength; it shares the weight and allows a man to breathe without shame.

But somewhere along the way, the conversation became distorted.
Some who parade as feminists fight without clarity, mistaking equality for competition.

Some acclaimed alpha male confuse dominance with strength.

A woman trying to become a man is not the solution either is a man trying to silence a woman a proof of strength.

When strength is proven by oppression, it is no strength at all. And when empowerment is expressed through ridicule, it is not empowerment, but insecurity wearing confidence.

Men and women were never designed to compete for supremacy.
They were designed to complement...to supplement each other.
To stand side by side—not one beneath the other.

True balance does not blur identity. It honors it.
A strong man is not threatened by a capable woman and a strong woman does not diminish and ridicule a man to feel powerful.

Both can rise.
Both can lead.
Both can support.
Both can be seen

And when they do; without ego, without fear, without silent suffering, the next generation learns something different.

They learn partnership.
They learn respect.
They learn commitment
They learn to understand
They learn that love is not a battlefield.
That strength is not loud, but balanced.

And Balance can be achieved.



©️ Omaka Gloria Onyemaechi

Have you had an encounter that made you believe in Grace?

While scrolling randomly on this blue street, I came across a video

It was a wedding reception in one of the eastern states.

The Mc called a girl out but she angrily refused to step out.

He looked around and picked another girl who stepped out all smiling.

The Mc wanted to play some games with her and others in the bridal train.

But chose to ask her some questions first.

'Is there anything you really desire for this year? Someone here may do it for you'

'I am a fashion designer and want to go for an upgrade'

She went on to introduce herself as a university finalist. And seeing the beautiful garment that adorned her body, you would know she definitely knew heronion.

The first person to gift her was a man of God. He was calmly seated with his lovely wife. He may be in his sixties. He gave her two hundred thousand naira.

Another gave a hundred and another a fifty thousand naira. That's a total sum of three hundred and a fifty thousand naira.

One astonishing thing is that the gifters were all men with their families there. Not younger guys you would say may had prior likeness for her

The girl was in tears already. Who wouldn't be.

Then came the biggest package.

An Industrial sewing machine.

All in other persons wedding!

Isn't this what is called GRACE?

She wasn't the first pick, but another person's refusal brought her out.

And I am sure, while coming for that reception, if anyone had told her she would be going home with all that, she would have laugh it off as a mere joke, just like sarah did in the bible.

While did i share this story?

Grace can find you anytime, anywhere.

But you must first position yourself.

What if she was just a girl in school without skills?

She mught have asked for an iphone.

And if someone eventually wish to gift her that, it'd be someone with other motive.

As you as for grace, build a platform where that grace can find you.

Be skillful, have a working system that will attract your blessers.

❤️
©️ Omaka Gloria Onyemaechi

Last week, I saw a video of a grandma who planked for 4hours, 30minutes and a good seconds.

You know the indoor exercise they call planking abi ?

That exercise you lie flat, balancing yourself with just you toes and arms.

You remember it now?

Yes, that's what an aging woman of 58years did for over 4 and half hours straight.

I know you won't understand the level of resilience, determination, energy and pain she put in

But just try it small

See if you can do for just 2minutes.

Ye, just 2minutes

As for me, I am going plank too, but not more than 2minutes that my strength can carry me
😂😂😂
But what were you expecting 🙄

You wanted to hear 2hours? You and who 😜😜

But her strong-will, I am definitely buying that 100%

And where i am putting it is where my strength lies.

Her resilient spirit
Her determination
Her energy

I am carrying all into my daily routine

But that will not include planking 🫣🫣
I don't want to faint and give my aged mother heart attack 🤣🤣

And I charge you to do the same.

The year is still very young and you need such resilient and energy to pull through.

Las Las, we go celebrate you too

❤️