Deep words

As I started to back out of the driveway last night, I paused for a moment when I noticed the sun slowly setting behind the house.

The sky was painted with soft shades of orange and pink, and everything seemed to quiet down for just a minute. Sitting there, watching the day come to an end, I realized how much I truly have to be thankful for.

My life can get sp busyat times, and it's easy to rush from one thing to the next without stopping to appreciate the little moments. But in that simple pause, I was reminded of the blessings that surround me every day ... the people in my life, my faith in God, the opportunities I’ve been given, and the peace that comes from knowing I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be.

Sometimes all it takes is a sunset painted by our creator to realize just how much a blessing this life truly is.

~ Deep words

‎I walked away.
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‎I once walked into a room where a couple of my friends were talking about me and they didn’t know I was there. I shook my head, smiled and walked away.
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‎I once had a bestfriend who talked bad about me, and never knew that I found out.... I never mentioned it. I just smiled and walked away from that friendship.
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‎I had a couple family members who chose to shift me out of their life because I stood up for myself for a change. And because I stopped crossing oceans for them when they would not even jump over a puddle for me. I smiled, shook my head and walked away.
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‎I was in a relationship once where I was always put last no matter what I did for them and I realized at that very moment .... someones effort is their direct reflection of their interest in you.
‎So, I walked away and never looked back.
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‎Someone asked me how I could just walk away from people that betrayed me while pretending to be my significant other, friends or family.
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‎I said that every time I came to a crossroad like that, I had to decide who will be going forward on my journey with me. This showed me who I cannot take along with me.
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‎You should never get mad at a person who betrays you, even in the name of friendship or family.
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‎Just gracefully bow out and enjoy your journey and remember ... the moment you start to wonder if you deserve better.
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‎You do.
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‎~ deep words
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I saw a video where someone said, you cannot reconcile with someone who is not honest about how they mishandled you,and something clicked in my head.

Real reconciliation requires accountability, if they can't admit what they did wrong, can't acknowledge the pain they caused, then nothing has actually changed.

They"ll repeat the same behavior because they never took responsibility for it.

Don't accept apologies that skip over the truth. Without honesty acknowledgement of the hurt, reconciliation is just you accepting mistreatment again.

~Deep words

Maybe some things don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and adapt to what we can't.

The wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sa**sm, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings. The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others. When men and women punish each other for truth telling, we reinforce the notion that lies are better. To be loving we willingly hear the other’s truth, and most important, we affirm the value of truth telling. Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love.

Book 📚: All About Love: New Visions
~bell hooks