Christian Family Guide

Dear Parents/Guardians,

8 DANGERS OF PO*******HY on our Children and Teenagers

1. Po*******hy distorts and harms a child’s view of s*x and s*xuality.

2. Po*******hy causes boys to see girls as objects/tools for their s*xual satisfaction and not as intelligent beings created in the image and likeness of God.

3. Po*******hy causes boys and girls to be prone to s*xual harm and aggressive behavior towards each other.

4. Po*******hy brings about low self esteem in girls - causing them to think they exist to satisfy the s*xual needs of the opposite s*x and making them accept abusive and abnormal behavior; for instance seeing r**e as normal and acceptable.

5. Po*******hy negatively impacts a child’s or teenager's quality of life and academic performance. This is because the supernormal stimulus, gotten from po*******hy will keep them glued to it and miss out on academic work and sleep. This can also lead to anxiety and mental health issues.

6. Po*******hy leads children to harm other children. Children are prone to copy what they see, so, when a child sees po*******hy, they practice po*******hy on other children and this puts them in harms way.

7. Po*******hy is harmful to the brain. It changes neural pathways in the brain, giving rise to supernormal stimulus in users.

8. And perhaps most importantly, po*******hy seeks to stop these children from becoming what they ought to be in Christ; constantly filling them with guilt, shame, pain and sadness and satan uses this opportunity to lie them that they are unworthy of God's love, thus making them want to hide from God.

Look out for HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BREAK FREE FROM THE BO***GE OF PO*******HY on this same space.

See you later.

God bless you!
❤️❤️❤️

Ama and her brother were only 6 years and 4 years respectively when their mother and father separated.

For reasons she didn't understand, their mother left them behind with their father.

Thinking back she could still remember her mother packing a box the night before.

She had asked her:
"Mum are you traveling?"

"No, I'm not", her mother responded.

"So why are you putting your stuff in that box?" She pressed.

Her mother didn't respond immediately; she had her back towards Ama, like she was doing all she could to make sure Ama doesn't see her face.

After what seemed like eternity, she cleared her throat, turned around and fixed her full gaze on Ama.

"Ama darling, I'm just arranging my stuff, I'm likely to have a long day tomorrow, so I thought to get it done with tonight"

Ama remembered thinking that there was something more than what her mum was saying; especially when her father chose that exact time to send them to their room with some biscuits and soft drinks.

Something, he never allows!

The next morning Ama and her brother woke up to their mum's absence; an absence that has lasted until this day.
..and that's when the journey of their father playing the role of mother and father begun.

One evening, a couple of months to her 8 years birthday, something happened to Ama; she noticed there was blood on her underpants. She went to her father and told him what she had observed. Her father looked at her in amazement, barely able to conceal his worry.

He asked her if anyone had touched her private parts, to which she answered no.

That was when it occurred to him that it may be a case of menstruation but he wondered why so early.

He called a doctor friend of his, who confirmed to him that although not common, there have been cases where girls see their menarche (first menstruation) that early.

Ama's dad was alarmed!

Pacing the floor with a feeling of inadequacy, he wondered why of all the people in the world, it would be his own daughter whose mother was absent from her life that should have an early manache.

He was still pacing around when he suddenly remembered that Ama was watching him and waiting for him to attend to her. His mind had drifted so far in just the few minutes of receiving the information from her.

He took a deep breath, sat Ama down and explained to her the meaning and implications of what just happened to her. After which he went out, got some sanitary pads and some new underpants.

When he got back, he bathed Ama, fixed a sanitary pad on a pant and gave it to her to put on. Before bedtime, he arranged another one for her and took the soiled one away. He did that again in the middle of the night.

The next day was a school day; Ama's dad arranged 6 sets of underpants with sanitary pads for her. He put them together in a clean nylon bag and asked her to put them he her school bag. He also gave her 6 nylon bags into which he asked her to put her soiled pads along with the pants every 4 hours.

His calculation was that, she would have more than enough change of pads by the time he would be back home.

That day, Ama went to school and did exactly as her dad had instructed her. She kept the soiled pads in the nylons her dad provided for that.

When her father got back, he disposed the used pads and washed the pants and of course made fresh ones available to her.

Ama's dad did this for her anytime she was on her period for over a year, after which she began to do it for herself.

As of today, Ama and her brother are in their early 20s; very well behaved young adults, who were single handedly raised by their father.

This is one reason why I will never understand fathers who live the raising of the children to the mother alone or worse still to the House Help because they have erroneously concluded that raising kids is a woman's job.

The more fathers are involved in the raising of the children, the better the children will turn out and of course, the better our society will be for it.

Thank you for reading.

God bless you!