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Almost 6 years in and this will never not be funny to me. They really do run a strict program because where do you think you are going without them?🤭

This is just for laughs because I know it’s half term this week and you’re probably dealing with this every second of the day if you’re a mum. This is a little summary of what AI google says causes this behaviour and how I deal with it.

Key reasons for “Velcro” behaviour

- Safety & Security: Toddlers feel safe when they can see you; you are their anchor.
- Object Permanence: Around 8–18 months, they realize you exist even when out of sight, but they still feel safer confirming your location, leading to "checks" on you.
- Connection & "Samesies": At age 2, they connect by doing what you do, following you to feel close.
Curiosity: They are exploring, and you are the most interesting, safest thing to follow.
- Separation Anxiety: A peak phase for separation anxiety (10-18 months) drives them to stay close to avoid fear .

How I navigate through this season-

1- I make it into a game which turns it from annoying to fun for both of us. I leave the room just to hide round the corner knowing he will be right behind me so I make him jump and we all just laugh about it. I do this several times a day. It’s hilarious 🤣

2- I communicate and let them know where I’m going and that I will be back shortly. I always deliver on this promise by coming back every single time. This is especially important when you’re leaving the house. We never run off and lie to them that they can come along and sneak off whilst they’re still putting in their shoes. (Yes I’m still traumatised by my parents doing this to me 🤣🤣🤣). We explain where we are going, why we have to go and how long we are going to be gone for. We then Help them through the emotions by validating their feelings and then promising to spend time playing with them upon return or bringing them they’re fav treats.
3- Distract them with toys or an activity . This is great if you’re not going to begone for long.

How do you handle this behaviour?
My fav is definitely number 1 as it creates trust through play.
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