Eirene Gold Inner Alchemy

Let’s Talk About Jealousy

Jealousy is generally one of those feelings we want to dismiss at all costs. When felt, along with the feelings of insufficiency, it also brings guilt for feeling that way towards another, and shame for being such a "bad person" when I should be all "love and light."

But when looked at with detachment, from a place of deep acceptance and love, jealousy will uncover
a deeper wound carried by a part of us that needs attention.

This part carries beliefs like:
“I don’t matter.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m never the chosen one.”
“I have no value unless I prove it.”
“Good things only happen to others.”
“I have to work hard to deserve love.”
“There’s something wrong with me.”

These beliefs live deep in the subconsciousmind. They’re not just thoughts—they are felt truths, shaped by moments when our emotional needs weren’t met, when love felt conditional, or when we had to perform, compete, or stay small just to stay safe.

Jealousy is a reaction to these beliefs being brought to the surface and suddenly, we’re not just witnessing someone else’s joy, we’re reliving the pain of not having our own.

Jealousy often arises when:
– As children, we were made to compete for love or attention
– Our caregivers rewarded certain traits while dismissing others
– We felt unsafe when others succeeded because love and approval were scarce
– We were emotionally neglected and our worth felt conditional

Jealousy can feel sharp, hot, even shameful. But it’s not a sign of being “bad.” It’s a protective response rooted in survival. If we feared being replaced, forgotten, unloved, our nervous system learned to see others’ success, beauty, or happiness as a threat.

Jealousy says: “There’s not enough for me.”
The wound behind it says: “I don’t believe I’m worthy of the same love, joy, or abundance.”

And when we don't tend to this wound with compassion and tenderness, jealousy can spill out in unconscious ways—through criticism, withdrawal, competition, comparison, or even sabotage. It can damage relationships and keep us disconnected from our power and from one another.

Jealousy causes us to forget that we are, indeed, all one. This is not some spiritual mumbo jumbo believed by a few for vague or naive reasons. We are, in fact, one—one breath, one spirit, one Divine. We might appear as individual rays or manifestations, but at the end of the day, the truth remains: we are one. I am you, and you are me.

Having the intention to feel this truth deeply, and remembering it every time we feel jealousy, will not only transform the energy of comparison and competition into reverence and inspiration, but it will also fuel a natural desire to help one another as a form of self-love—because if you heal and grow, I also heal and grow.

From a different perspective, jealousy can show us what we secretly long for.
It can point to parts of us we’ve disowned.
It can help us reclaim desires we were taught were “too much.”

When we meet jealousy with curiosity instead of shame, we often find grief… longing… a desire to be loved, to be chosen, to belong.

So instead of pushing it away or covering it up, try asking:

– What part of me feels unseen right now?
– What belief about myself is being activated?
– What do I think they have that I don't or can't get? Why not me?
– Is there a wound from my past that is asking for my attention?

So let’s not turn away from jealousy. Let’s not reject the parts of us that feel insecure, left out, or not good enough.

Let’s get curious.

Jealousy isn’t here to punish us—it’s here to reveal what we long for. What we were taught we couldn’t have. What we still believe we’re not allowed to want.

And when we meet it with honesty instead of shame, it becomes a doorway.
Not a problem to fix, but a part to listen to.

Because behind jealousy, there’s often a quiet truth:
I want to be seen.
I want to be chosen.
I want to feel like I belong.

And there’s nothing wrong with that.

When we hold space for this honestly, we come back to ourselves. We stop competing. We stop comparing. And we start reconnecting—with our needs, with others, and with what really matters.

There is enough for all of us.
And none of us has to fight for our place here.

With infinite love
Eirene

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About Health & Body Awareness and some staff you never knew about me.

The other day, my husband said something that hit me deep and opened a door I didn’t even know needed opening. He said, “You take your health and the strength of your body for granted.”

At first, I wanted to defend myself—but instead, I chose to sit with it (as one does). And as I turned inward, I realised… he was right.

I come from a lineage of incredible physical resilience—especially on my father’s side. My dad is 68 and still strong as an ox. He’s survived multiple car accidents, comas, falls from roofs, a sliced face—you name it. And he’s still going strong. He heals quickly, recovers like magic, and never gives up.

Me and my brother inherited that. I can’t remember the last time I was truly ill. I carry a lot of weight on my body, but I can jump, flex, get up from the floor with ease, and have zero joint pain. I can push my body in ways not many can and come out the other side feeling fine every time - for example I even water fasted for 40 days—yes, really—and that was not at all a big deal for me.

But here’s the thing: I never celebrated this. I never truly appreciated or nurtured this incredible strength. I just assumed it would always be there, I take it for granted.

And because it was always there, I never put my body first. I never felt the need to care for it with the reverence it deserved. Until now.

In recent months, as I’ve released layers of trauma—completing a long, sacred journey of inner healing—I’ve begun coming home to my body in a whole new way. Not through exercise or weight loss goals, but through presence. Through feeling. Through alchemising pain into pleasure. Through returning to the body as a wise, living temple.

And here’s what I’ve discovered:

You can exercise daily and still be disconnected from your body.
You can look fit and still ignore its deeper needs.
Or, like me, you can simply take it for granted because it’s “always been fine.”

So I want to ring a little bell somewhere inside your mind.

What is your relationship with your body right now?

Do you truly value it?

Or have you been using it without honouring it?

Do you listen to it—or only push it?

The way we treat our bodies reflects how we treat ourselves. If we ignore or abandon the body, chances are… we’re doing the same to parts of our soul.

And listen, when we truly come into our bodies, the mind calms, the breath deepens, and everything feels right again.

So today, pause.
Reflect.
And if you recognise yourself in any of this—stop, and celebrate.

Celebrate your strength.
Celebrate your resilience.
Celebrate your willpower, your kindness, your breath.
Celebrate anything you’ve taken for granted.

Celebrate your body and remember that it is the place where all the pain turns into pleasure.

With love,
Eirene Gold Inner Alchemy