The Baby Sleep Doula

It's of utmost important to me that I consider your child's temperament before I advise on the style of support/type of plan that would work for you and your child.

It really isn't a one size fits all approach with me.

It wouldn't work for every child.

A resilient and flexible temperament may respond well to more formal sleep training techniques, while a sensitive temperament nearly always requires a more gradual and gentle approach with lots more input... and that is totally normal and understandable.

Sometimes we may not know what your child's temperament is or even what their sleep needs truly are until we start, and that's ok too.

I pride myself on being flexible and adaptable with my approaches because I've armed myself with a lot of tools, research and experience along the way.

Whatever your child's temperament or your sleep training beliefs, I work with ALL types of families and LOVE what I do.

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This is really a thing. Believe me… it happened to me with my first born.

Maybe you are discovering it now.

Suddenly a baby comes along and even though you’re bone tired exhausted, you feel like you no longer know how to sleep or your brain just won’t let you!

As a mum, I also know how tempting it is to delay sleep to claim a few moments of personal time

At the height of my postnatal depression & anxiety, I suffered with insomnia for 3 days straight. I didn’t close my eyes for at least 72 hours and it was one of the most terrifying things that’s ever happened to me.

“Sleep when the baby sleeps” did not work for me, infact that saying still triggers me today.

If you can't sleep at night or in the day, even when your baby is asleep, or you just feel tired all the time, then this could be a sign of postnatal depression.

Don’t suffer in silence though, talk to your friends & family, book an appointment with a GP asap & even reach out to an Infant sleep consultant so you can get the help you need to make a quick recovery.

All of the above saved me and got me the sleep I so desperately needed.

MATRESCENCE. What does it mean?

✍🏻 First coined in 1973 by a medical anthropologist. It describes the emotional, MENTAL, physical, social and physiological transformative process a woman goes through as she BECOMES a MOTHER.

👉🏻 Sometimes likened to becoming an adolescent when HORMONES surge, bodies change and relationships and identities shift.

👩🏽‍🍼Yet when a woman becomes a mother she is encouraged and almost pressurised to just “get on with it”. We are expected to continue on with life as normal and enjoy every minute, yet life has IRREVERSIBLY changed and there’s no going back and in some cases it can be terrifying, unmanageable and overwhelmingly EXHAUSTING.

📆 Even in this day and age little has been explored in the medical COMMUNITY to do with becoming a mother.

🔎The focus is still mainly on the baby and mother’s (sometimes even father’s) still feel ashamed to admit they’re STRUGGLING and need help and don’t know enough.

‼️It is more important than ever that parents get SUPPORT and lots of it.

🏘️ It will always take a VILLAGE to raise a child and as humans we’re not meant to parent alone.

🙌🏻 Support comes in many forms, yet our planet is infiltrated by parent shamers, trolls and people pushing their EXTREME VIEWS on us constantly which then makes us question our own judgements and beliefs.

🫶🏻 It’s OK to not be OK, and I’m here to support you if your current baby SLEEP situation, habits and routine aren’t working for you. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing or thinking.

👉🏽If you’re desperately in need of some ADVICE, SUPPORT and sleep then please don’t suffer in silence.

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Instinct has been essential for our survival as a species (and as parents) since the beginning of mankind. It allows us to react quickly to danger, make crucial decisions without conscious thought, and make meaningful relationships with others.

Instinct plays a role in our emotional and social intelligence, in our ability to form bonds with others, and in our ability to navigate complex situations.

While we may rely less on our instincts in these modern times, I truly believe they are a fundamental part of our biology and who we are as a person. It helps guide our behaviours, reactions, emotions and relationships and personally I feel we’d be lost without it.

Trusting and honoring our gut feelings, can help us live more in tune with our children, and their natural rhythms and prevent us from being stuck in ‘analysis paralysis’ when needing to make a decision.

Our instincts are not something to be ignored, but taken seriously and respected.

When working with me, I will never brush over yours or ask you to ignore or forget it. It’s crucial to our team work and success.

YOU know your baby best and your opinion matters the most.