Sabrina Engelhardt

A couple came to me two months ago.

They loved each other. But somewhere along the way, their physical closeness had gone. The attraction. The ease. Everything felt awkward. Even being naked together.

They didn't know how to get it back. She - above all - felt desperate to feel desired and wanted again.

6 sessions later, here's what they told me (their words):

💛 "We fight less."
💛 "We feel closer."
💛 "It’s cosier between us."
💛 "There's more attraction between us."
💛 "I overthink less."
💛 "We've made huge steps forward and are in a much better place."

There was never a dramatic breakthrough moment. Not one single conversation that fixed everything.

Just two people who decided to stop waiting for it to get better on its own — and did something about it.

That's the work. And it's available to you too.

And it wasn't easy work - for him especially. So much awkwardness. So much discomfort. But he showed up. For her. For their marriage.

And I honour that so much.

If you recognise something of yourself in this - DM me CONNECTED. I work with a small number of couples at a time.

I didn’t really understand emotional safety in relationships for a long time.

Now I see it so much clearer.

For me, emotional safety is when I can open up, say what I think, what I feel, what I want… and I’m actually listened to.

Not judged. Not criticized. Not made wrong for it.

And I think to create safety is always to invite the other to be curious.

Curious about your emotions, your thoughts, your desires, your wishes.

Not trying to correct them. Not judging them. Just staying open to them.

And for me this is how you create emotional safety in a relationship.

It’s really about curiosity.

How curious do you feel with your partner?

And where do you feel you stop being curious and start protecting yourself instead?

emotional safety · presence · curiosity · relationships · connection