Crystal Chen

Ascension
A word that gets tossed around that sounds airy fairy 🧚‍♀️ that may make it feel like a nice place to get to because you’re reality seems insufferable

💥The constant uproar of the world
💥Constant demands that seem to never end
💥 the “wrong people” wanting your attention while you’re waiting for the “right one” to see you for who you are
💥I’ll finally get to do this only after this is cleared up (insert your fav “reason” for not just doing the damn thing”

But you don’t and actually can’t wait for the future to get what you want. You get to start to have them now if you choose it AND can see it

✨I “manifested” my dream partner when I was at one of the worst points of my life
✨I “manifested” the most money when I was desperate for it
✨I started my coaching business when I felt like my life was falling apart

I got some of the best things at my worst, going through real life tough AF SH*TUATIONS because I allowed it

You do not need to have life figured out before you can have and move forward with your desires

You just need to recognize that life will always well, life and it’s not until you get what’s going on the inside figured out before your outside world changes

Sorry, but waiting to “ascend” before you move is just another form of procrastination

So if you want to start working on your real life desires NOW, even while you got some real life things going on, shoot me a DM.

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When I got out of an extremely toxic codependent relationship where mind games, gaslighting and being used as a trash 🗑 where garbage could be dumped was my norm, I believed being treated with basic decency was amazing

When blow and Molly used to be my best friend, drinking away my feelings didn’t seem so bad

When I grew up seeing my family lose 💰💰and everything they earned on more than one occasion, not being broke was more than good enough

So it is no surprise that when I was able to support myself and my son and be out of dysfunction, I felt bad for wanting more.

I convinced myself my Sh*tuations is a better one than before and I must be “ungrateful” and “bad” for having these feelings

And the truth was, my “good enough” was the bare fu***ng minimum

And sadly I know I am not unique in this experience

I know many of you are here or know exactly what I am taking about

And you are destined for more and I know in your gut, you know it too

I am tired of seeing people accept the bare minimum and if you are too, I have spots open this month for 1:1 coaching

Big love to you boo❤️😘

Resilience as an outcome of needing to persevere and survive life, can give a false sense of independence

True independence has choice, free will and your ability to decide what you want to do alone and when you want to call in support

I spent so many years confusing being strong and independent with rigidity to allow others support me, which was rooted in my fear of being let down, abandoned and looking stupid

This looked like
💥saying I was choosing to leave situations on my own accord when I was really pushing people away
💥doing everything myself and calling it “self responsibility” as opposed to holding others to any expectation of what comes with healthy boundaries
💥Saying “I got it” so I can be “proud” that I did it on my own, when in actuality I deep down believed that if I asked for help it would somehow diminish my worth

And although I learned how resilient I could be

💥I still ended up in co dependent relationships {side note, super common to want to be needed to fuel your “independence”}
💥breaking down when I had no choice to get support
💥Struggled to be alone when not in relationships
💥Had difficulty accepting gifts, support and compliments from others, even though deep down it’s what I really wanted

Powering though and having to be a hero all the time is honestly exhausting.

I get you needed to do what you had to in order to survive, because believe I did too, but babe, you are too cute to keep up this energy all the time

✍️✍️I’m inviting you to check in and see what you define as being strong and independent and how you is identify with this

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