Rasmussen Coaching and Consulting
03/24/2026
Eight years ago I wrote a post about coming out. I ended it by saying I was finally living, loving and being true to myself.
And I was. But I was also still figuring out what that even meant.
I’ve written a follow-up. And this one covers everything I wish someone had told me back then. Truths about the complexity of sexuality, about the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, about demisexuality and why finding that word quietly changed things for me. And about the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit, even after I thought I’d done the hard work.
This one’s personal. It’s also for anyone who has ever felt like they were broken because attraction didn’t work for them the way it seemed to work for everyone else. Or like coming out was supposed to fix everything and somehow it didn’t.
You’re not broken. You might just not have the right words yet.
What I Know Now That I Wish I’d Known Then: The Coming Out Edition Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction…
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