Conquer Leadership

𝗚𝗥𝗢𝗪𝗧𝗛 𝗜𝗡 𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡

Coming out of a coaching conversation with a communications leader in police services .. we talked about why he feels constantly drained.

Not because he isn't capable. Actually, the opposite.

He cares deeply. Takes ownership. Wants to help. Steps in often.

But over time, he's started to carry problems that aren't fully his to carry in the first place.

Other people’s stress. Other people’s urgency. Other people’s lack of planning.

Maybe you’ve felt this too.

FOCUS: We focused on the difference between being supportive and becoming emotionally responsible for everything around you.

INSIGHT: High performers often take ownership of problems that were never fully theirs to carry.

ACTION: We discussed a simple framework to use in stressful situations:
M → What’s MY responsibility or within my span of control?
T → What’s THEIR responsibility?
O → What’s OURS to work through together?

Sometimes burnout comes from treating everything like it’s yours alone.

YOUR TURN: Simple yes or no .. have you ever carried something that wasn’t fully yours to carry?

𝗦𝗧𝗔𝗬 𝗖𝗟𝗢𝗦𝗘 𝗧𝗢 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗪𝗢𝗥𝗞

Can a volunteer ever make it to the "top"?

Most leaders struggle with distance. As they move "up" in seniority, they move further away from the work .. And that's when things tend to break.

This is one of the biggest gaps I see in leadership development and team engagement as I continue to work closely with leaders, teams and organizations.

I recently spoke with my good friend, Vipin Saini, Executive Director, Seva Food Bank . In this episode of ConquerCast, we covered a lot, in a short amount of time:

💥 Whether pineapple belongs on pizza (Always a hot topic and neither of us were shy to state our position 😃)
💥 Leading through financial pressure
💥 Turning around a deficit
💥 Staying connected to your team
💥 Learning how to step away and recharge

➤ Check out the full podcast + BONUS material (Five reminders as you move "up" in leadership → LINKS IN BIO

𝗪𝗛𝗬 𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗦 𝗘𝗣𝗜𝗦𝗢𝗗𝗘 𝗙𝗘𝗟𝗧 𝗣𝗘𝗥𝗦𝗢𝗡𝗔𝗟
My connection to Seva Food Bank is personal.

It’s a place that's meant something to my family from before the doors ever opened .. When we were in strategy meetings simply discussing the idea of Seva Food Bank.

And my Mom, who passed away from cancer in 2022, was one of the "kitchen aunties" making us all food so that we could continue planning and stay focused.

Although, when Momma's food is THAT good, you need power nap afterwards 😃.

𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗧𝗨𝗥𝗡
Check out the full podcast + BONUS material (Five reminders as you move "up" in leadership) → LINKS IN BIO

𝗚𝗥𝗢𝗪𝗧𝗛 𝗜𝗡 𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡

Coming out of a coaching session with a Project Manager … we talked about speaking up!

She prepares .. thinks things through .. knows her input would add value.

But when the moment comes to speak, she hesitates. Not because she doesn’t know enough, but because she's not fully confident in how it will come across.

So she stays quiet. And the moment passes.

Maybe you’ve felt this too.

FOCUS: We focused on the hesitation that shows up right before speaking.

INSIGHT: You’re not struggling with speaking or knowledge. You’re struggling with trusting what you already know.

ACTION: The next time you feel that hesitation, don’t wait for perfect. Say one clear sentence, state your opinion or ask a question. Then pause. Let the conversation build from there.

YOUR TURN: DM or comment below. What’s one moment this week where you’ll choose to speak, even if it’s not perfect?