The Empowerment Adventure

Jo has dodged a divorce...

Working on herself has given her new tools and skills to change the things in her life she wasn't happy with.

This is so much more empowering than blaming someone else for your issues.

Celebrate Jo's courage and as she enters a new stage of her life. She's going to be a winner either way as she's taken control and not leaving her future up to chance,

We are very proud of her.

Fiona x

LOSING YOUR KIDS LOVE AFTER DIVORCE

Hello, beautiful souls. If you’re reading this, you might be feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders. You might be trying to or already have navigated the storm of divorce, and now, you’re facing the heart-wrenching reality of strained or estranged relationships with your children. I want you to know: “You are not alone”.

It’s something we see and hear often, and for Mumma Bears, it’s heartbreaking. You need to acknowledge your pain by honouring your feelings. The pain, the unfairness, the confusion—it’s real, and it’s heavy. You may feel as though you’ve lost not just a partner, but also a vital connection to your children. The love you have for them is immeasurable, yet the distance can feel insurmountable. It’s okay to grieve that loss.

Divorce changes everything. It can create rifts that seem impossible to mend. But here’s the beautiful truth: “Healing is possible.”

There is Power in healing enough so you have an Open Heart and don’t change the beautiful woman you are because you’ve been hurt.

In the midst of this turmoil, it’s vital to keep your heart open. Closing off to protect yourself may feel like the right move, but it only deepens the divide. Instead, choose to embrace vulnerability. Love conquers everything so let it be your guiding light.

Here are some strategies to help you navigate this challenging journey:

1. Learn to be Self-Compassionate

You’re navigating uncharted waters and you haven’t been given a rule book or taught skills to do things differently from the way you’ve done them up to date. It’s crucial to be gentle with yourself as you move forward. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment and look at how you can grow your understanding so you can communicate more effectively with your children. You are doing the best you can in a tough situation so if you are open to learning, it will hold the key to your freedom and be a breakthrough from the pain.

2. Communicate with Love

What I’ve found to be true is kids cut off and put their protective walls up when they are hurting. The reality is “hurt people hurt others”. Common advice given is to reach out and keep trying to connect to your children but this is the worst thing to do IF YOU ARE HURT and defending yourself. They don’t know how to “fix” you or the situation. What I always suggest is using a “rebuilding love” strategy and it requires you to do some CORE inner healing work so you understand your kids hurt and can “speak to their pain” when you reach out. You sharing your feelings is not what they need to hear when they are suffering. Often they want to “subconsciously punish you” so you need to be emotionally mature and brave enough to hear them and let love lead the conversation. When communicating, be inquisitive as to how you’ve hurt them, what their “story is” and find out what they need to hear from you.

3. Be The Adult and Create New Traditions

If your kids are hurting, they will want you to apologise and make amends. This is hard to do if you are committed to maintaining your position and wanting to be right. Finding small ways to reconnect is possible when they see you healing, growing and learning to love again. Once you begin to heal and you understand your kids pain, you can begin to rebuild the lost love. Whether it’s a weekly text message, a monthly phone call, a handwritten letter, or even a shared hobby, these new traditions can pave the way for healing. It’s about you increasing your emotional intelligence so you can communicate in a way they can hear you and taking baby steps toward rebuilding that connection.

4. Seek Support

You don’t have to walk this path alone. Consider working with a divorce recovery coach who understands your journey. Sharing your experiences with others who have walked similar roads can be incredibly healing and provide you with new tools and skills so you can still be happy even when your heart is broken. Your job is to rebuild yourself, so you can reconnect with your kids in a mutually satisfying way, and live a fulfilling life regardless of how your kids treat you.

5. Embrace Forgiveness—For Yourself and Them

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It doesn’t mean you condone what happened; it means you’re choosing to release the burden of resentment. This process can be transformative, allowing you to love more freely, even from afar.

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, reconciliation may not be possible just yet. You can still love your children from a distance. Channel your energy into nurturing your own heart and soul. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. When you radiate positivity, you create a ripple effect that can reach your loved ones, even if they’re not in your immediate circle.

Your Journey Ahead

As you move forward, remember: “Your story isn’t over.” This chapter may be painful, but it’s also an opportunity for growth, resilience, and the discovery of new depths of love. You may have been trading love to get love so learning all about the different levels of love could be a real breakthrough for you. You’re stronger than you realise, and you have the power to create a future filled with hope and connection.

I know this can be a hard and confusing cross to bear but it’s vital you keep that beautiful heart of yours open. You deserve healing, love, and the chance to mend the rifts in your life—whether that’s with your children or within yourself.

Remember: Healing is not a destination, but a journey. Embrace every step.

With love and light,
Fiona May x

Ps. I use a proven and successful rebuilding strategy with my clients so if what I say resonates with you, send me a message and we’ll arrange to chat.

Sandra Lee and I love transforming ladies' lives after divorce... This is what one of our beautiful clients said after attending the Reset & Shine 3-day events.

"After what was a wonderful weekend meeting all the wonderful women at the recent Melbourne RESET YOUR LIFE & SHINE, I left feeling refreshed with practical tools and resetting my goals.

I made the decision to celebrate the turn of my 6th decade overseas. For my 5th decade, I took some girlfriends with me, this time I’m going solo!

It’s been fun planning it - Italy, Croatia, Slovenia and Hungary. Lots of nature, delicious food and meeting new people from all over the place.

There are about 5 days I’m totally solo which will be interesting to plan out but I’m excited.

This is what the SHINE PROGRAM has led me to - a stronger, braver, adventurous, happier Woman after my divorce!

It couldn’t have happened without the coaching, vision board, goal setting, persistence, amazing tools and encouragement. My little side hustle has helped make this happen which also came from Shine! I love my Shiney tribe." Lee H.

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The Liberating Power of Being You True, Authentic Self!

In my work the most common themes I hear from clients is a deep-seated feeling that they have gotten off track from who they truly are and what is most meaningful to them. It’s so easy to get bogged down by circumstances, relationships, or routines that no longer align with their core values and desires and it takes a conscious effort to realign to our true needs.

While the external pressures of daily life can certainly steer us away from our true north at times, staying disconnected from our inner truth ultimately breeds feelings of emptiness, dissatisfaction and lack of fulfillment. It is only when we acknowledge who we really are beneath the surface roles and expectations that we find the strength and wisdom to reshape our lives into something more authentic.

This process of self-authenticity - getting crystal clear on our personal strengths, preferences and life purpose then having the courage to live from that genuine place - is one of the most psychologically and spiritually liberating things we can do. However, it requires peeling back the layers of conditioning, fears and doubts that have built up over years of compromising orpeople-pleasing. It demands that we listen to our inner voices over outer influences and replace shoulds and oughts with an internal compass of wants, needs and passions.

While the journey of self-discovery is lifelong, making a firm commitment to get real with ourselves is the first step to channeling our energy into meaningful goals rather than drifting through default routines. With authenticity as our guide, we gain the clarity and confidence to let go of anyone or anything holding us back from becoming our best selves. We open the doors to new opportunities that feed both our souls and lives with deeper purpose.

For those feeling adrift or disenchanted, I encourage exploring ways to reconnect with your most inherent qualities through mindful reflection, journaling and trying new experiences. Seek out role models who inspire you to fully embrace your uniqueness. Have compassion for yourself as you shed layers of conditional masks that no longer serve your evolution.

True freedom lies in recognizing that you need not settle for any life that does not thrill your authentic spirit. With perseverance, we can all sculpt lives of profound significance and joy by staying dedicated to the rhythms of our internal souls rather than external expectations alone. Our world greatly benefits from the invaluable gifts only you have to offer when you walk through it as your whole, real self.

Being happy, free and true to yourself opens us up to bridging the gap between nationality, location and circumstances.

We all have the same 6 human needs but value them in different orders. At the end of the day we all want significance, certainty, variety, love and connection, growth and to contribute beyond ourselves.

Knowing who we are at a core level and coming from love and compassion instead of fear and judgement allows us to shine our light and make the most impact in this funny old world we live in.

Are you shining your light?

This is Kristine, one of our VA’s from the Phillipines. Being able to invite her to join us in Bali was a lifetime dream for her and it feels so good to contribute to her life. She supports our clients and it feels good to give something back to her to acknowledge her dedication and how she contributes to others.

Is there someone in your life you could acknowledge for what they do for you? It feels good to give!
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