InsideOut Coaching

Insight for today:
GOOD GIRLS DON’T
TRUST THEMSELVES 🐍⛪

What do you trust more:
intuition or logic? 🔮🐍

They called female
intuition sin.
✨ 🔥

She was told to trust God. Just not the intuition God gave her.
If truth came through her, suddenly it was dangerous.🔮🔥

Home.
Slightly jet-lagged.
Very ready for fur baby cuddles.
Nothing like leaving the country to confirm who really runs the household.

𝐃𝐈𝐘 𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐝 𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐏𝐑.
Late in February I got a message saying I could check in for my flight.

Tiny problem.
I wasn’t flying for another month.
So naturally I thought the airline had lost the plot.

Nope.

I had accidentally booked my outgoing flight for February instead of March.
Which meant I had to change it.

And that little self-service adventure cost me $210.
Hence this post.

Because this is exactly why I still love travel agents.

Booking flights is not my job.
And apparently proper full service has become some sort of endangered species.

Everything now is:
do it yourself
check it yourself
fix it yourself
and if it goes wrong, pay for it yourself too.

Then they call that convenience.
That is not always convenience.
Sometimes it is just outsourced labour in a prettier outfit.

Same reason I refuse to use self-checkouts.
You are doing the work.
Helping train the system.
And somehow being told this is progress.

Even funnier, some checkout staff have bought the story that self-checkout won’t help replace them.

That is how good the script is.
It gets people to participate in their own displacement and call it innovation.

And honestly, women do this in life all the time.
They carry too much themselves.
Try to see everything from inside the problem.
Miss what a good second set of eyes would catch in five seconds.
Then pay for it in money, time, stress, energy, or momentum.

Just because you can do something yourself does not mean you should.

Support is not weakness.
Sometimes it is the smartest move in the room.

That is true for flights.
And it is true for life.

Sometimes you do not need to try harder.
You need someone who can see what you cannot because you are standing too close to it.

Anyway, that was my $210 reminder that self-service is not always the flex it’s sold as.

– Cherie Stokes
Love YOU InsideOut

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

Not with fire.
With self-censorship.
With second-guessing.
With silence.
With cutting back what she knows before anyone else gets the chance to.

Salem may be history.
But the pattern did not die.
It evolved.

Because once upon a time, women were punished publicly for knowing too much, sensing too much, healing too much, or living too close to the unseen.

And Salem was never just about superstition.

It was social panic.
Religious pressure.
Factional conflict.
Narrative control.
Authority deciding what could be said, believed, and embodied.

Now the punishment is more subtle.
You do it to yourself before the village even gets a chance.
You water down what you see.
You make yourself smaller than you are.
You pretend your intuition is not that strong.
You call your gifts silly, weird, or too much.
You abandon your own knowing before anyone else can condemn it.

That is how old conditioning survives.
It gets internalised.

The genius of those old systems was not just in making examples of women.
It was in creating a legacy of fear so deep that women would eventually police themselves.

That is why this is not just history.
It is inheritance.

And some of the most gifted women alive today are still carrying an ancient message in their nervous system:
Be careful.
Do not be too powerful.
Do not be too visible.
Do not let them see what you really are.

So no, the witch trials did not simply disappear.
They went psychological.

And these days, some witches are burning themselves at the stake without even realising who handed them the match.

– Cherie Stokes
Love YOU InsideOut

Proof: Salem was not literally about burning at the stake. In Salem, 19 people were hanged, 5 died in custody, and one man was pressed to death. The burning image here is symbolic. What matters is the pattern: fear, accusation, religious pressure, and authority-driven control. Britannica says the trials grew out of church politics, family feuds, hysterical children, and a vacuum of political authority. The Guardian also notes that Governor William Phips tried to stop printed discussion because he feared “kindling an inextinguishable flame.”

Insight for today:
BURN THE SCRIPT,
NOT THE WITCH

What’s your witchiest trait?
🔮🧙‍♀️🐍

Some intuitives are burning themselves at the stake
without even realising who handed them the match.
- 𝐶ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑒 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑘𝑒𝑠 -

Women were not taught
to trust their power. 🖤🐍
They were taught to fear it ⚡

𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐢𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧.
I’m writing this from Malaysia while Martin is here for work training and then we’re staying on for a little holiday. Being out of your normal routine can often give you a different perspective.

It’s made me look at social media a bit differently too.

A lot of women have been taught that if they want a presence online, they need to become some kind of influencer. More visible. More public. More ‘out-there’. More of their life on show. More performing.

But wanting a social media presence for your business is not the same as wanting to be an influencer.

That matters.

Because Facebook has been leaning more into showing people content based on what they’re actually interested in, not just who already has the biggest crowd. Meta’s own creator guidance is now heavily focused on discoverability, relevance, and helping the right people see your content.

Which is good news for intuitive introverts.

It means this is less about turning yourself into a personality act and more about being clear enough for the right people to recognise you. Less about trying to appeal to everyone, and more about saying something that lands with the woman who was already looking for someone like you.

That’s a very different game.

And honestly, I think a lot of introverted women have been resisting social media because deep down they thought the only way to do it was to become someone they’re not. More exposed. More performative. More switched on all the time.
No wonder that feels awful.

You do not need to become an influencer to have a presence.
You do not need to be more ‘out-there’ to be seen.
And you definitely do not need to build your business like your life is a reality show.

You just need the right people to find you and know, almost straight away, that you’re for them.

That’s where introverts have an edge. We don’t need everyone. We need resonance.